Monday, April 13, 2009

My Mom and Facebook

As I mentioned today in class my mother and I went through some crazy times on Facebook. Although it has mostly been resolved I thought I would share the e-mail that almost got me on national television. This is copy and pasted from the e-mail that I sent to the Fox morning show.

"My name is Elizabeth Sadler and I am 20 years old. I am from the south suburb of Chicago, Orland Park. I got to school at Utah Valley University and am entering my junior year. My mom is obsessed with facebook. Cynthia Sadler has been on facebook for just about as long as I have. Back in the days before she had one of her own she would sneak onto mine, read my messages and stalk people. However, once I went away to college she had no way to access my password and created one of her own. What started as a way to monitor me while I was away at school turned into a way to ruin my life. First off, one of the most embarrassing she does is use her facebook to communicate with my ex-boyfriend, because they are still friends. She likes him more then she likes me. She tries to get us to communicate even though I am very happy now in a different relationship. They write each other updates on life like they are best friends and its embarrassing that she still has that kind of relationship with someone I don’t even talk to. She also creates embarrassing events and party’s and because she has no friends to herself she invites all of mine and they feel weird getting the invitation. Whenever my mom and I get into a fight she de-friends me on facebook and writes me a nasty message. Then when she feels bad about it she asks to be friends with me again and apologizes. One of the more recent fights we have gotten in was when I wrote a fan song about the twilight book series and my mom took it and gave it to a bunch of my friends on facebook that don’t even read the books! Then when I asked her very politely to delete them from MY friend’s facebooks because they wouldn’t understand the songs she said this, a direct quote that was actually in all capitals (Emily Bleeker is my sister and ben is my boyfriend.), “I HAVE SOME GREAT NEWS FOR YOU. EMILY BLEEKER CAN NOW OFFICIALLY BE YOUR MOTHER NOW. CALLL HER WHEN YOU ARE IN NEED OF ALL OF THOSE THINGS YOUI USED TO CALL ME FOR .I AM SURE YOU ARE NOW THRILLED NOT TO HAVE TO PUT UP A FACADE NOW. GIVE BEN A MESSAGE FOR ME..I FORGOT TO TELL HIM TO BE CAREFUL WITH HIS HEART ....ELIZABETH IS A MASTER AT TEARING OUT HEARTS, STOMPING ON THEM , CHEWING THEM UP AND SPITTING THEM OUT. YOU CAN BLOCK LME FROM EVERYTHING TECHNOLOGY WISE, I WILL AS WELL...YOU HAVE ALREADY DONE IT IN EVERY OTHER WAY POSSIBLE. I WILL JOIN THEN RANKS OF THOSE TRYING TO REBUILD A LIFE AFTER LOVING YOU AND BEING TOTALLY DEDICATED TO YOU.SOMEONE YOU USED TO CARE ABOUT BUT, I FORGOT WHEN.”
This was all because I asked her to take MY song off of MY friend’s facebooks. She deactivated her facebook for about a day after this, but then of course activated it again. She thinks its cool that she has a facebook and my friends think its funny, but I think its embarrassing! When I was still dating my ex boyfriend she would use it to write him messages about things I told her in our relationship. She leaves uncomfortable comments on my friends pictures and walls. Even once commenting on my brother’s friends picture telling him how nice he looks without a shirt on! She embarrasses my older sister too although I can’t speak for her. And as if one facebook wasn’t enough she made ANOTHER one under my dads name that she still manages and does everything for it. There is no way it is my dads because he is conservative and does not like the lime light. For some reason she needs to have two accounts so people can be doubly interested in her life…
She uses facebook to search for self pity, trying to share my friends, make comments she things are funny but are really embarrassing, to follow the people I talk to, to send me messages when she is too afraid to talk to me in person, send me updates on my ex boyfriend, and to keep up with what I am doing in my life. She loves her facebook more then anything including me and I don’t know if she will ever let it go."

After this my mother and I did not speak, e-mail or especially facebook for 4 months. Just because of FACEBOOK. Granted our issues DO go deeper then that, but it is crazy what a big symbol something like facebook was for my mother. I learned a lot and know to keep parents and facebook separate.

Friday, March 6, 2009

Milk does a body good?

I agree that we should watch more 30 Rock in class. It really is a good example of how conglomerate companies work. For example, I learned that General Electric owns cbs and the shows on it. This in turn allowed me to get a cranium question right. It is crazy how interconnected everything is.

Growing up there were only two distinctions that I really cared about when it came to television. There was Disney and there was Nickleodean. Now there are so many. Every cable channel has a cable channel and a movie company and a music label under its belt as well.

I was so so so shocked about the blurb of a documentary that we watched in class today. To think that it isn't against the law to falsify news is really disturbing. The news that we hear and the news that we see is through rose colored glasses. We are only allowed to know what the news stations execs want us to know. Useful information is easily omitted if it doesn't do the news station any good.

What would make it into the news if there weren't people monitoring the image of their sister companies?

Saturday, February 28, 2009

Better Late Then Never

So I forgot to blog last night, but instead of just letting it past me by I thought I would still put something down. The thing that aggravates me is I totally had the blog all ready I just forgot to post it.

What I wanted to talk about was racism used as humor. I found a compilation of many racist clips from family guy.I am not very technologically savvy so I didn't know how to upload it onto here so here is a link....

In the media it seems like they constantly make fun of blacks, but it has become socially acceptable. I don't see anyone stoping fox from Family Guys ways. Even in some movies they openly mock the black stereotype. In Friday the 13th when the AFrican American Charater is asked to pump teh ga he says, "oh because I am a black man?" Or in Not Another Teen Movie they poke fun at how there is a token black guy in each teen movie just to satisfy racial equality. The black mans one line in the song is, "I'm only in this son because I'm a black guy." DO I even need mention that the sole black character on South Park is named Token? I think as long as the media keeps making African American's different they will remain different. Until the integration feels natural and not forced then the media hadn't been fully integrated.

Friday, February 20, 2009

Hey Mickey You're So Fine.

Well if it isn't that time of the week again where I meet face to face with my blog to discuss media and its ongoing role in society.

What to talk about? well we stated a new book in class this week, which I am not gonna lie I haven't started reading it yet. It reminds me a lot of a book I had to read for a sociology class called when affirmative action was white. It don't focus so much on race and society but it does show you how race move through time and how legislation was built around it. Just like race has moved in its role in legislation and government throughout time I am excited to see how it moves through media as well.

It is a concept that no one can really be familiar with unless they are the ones experiencing it. From what I know in this book it continues on with women in the media of well adding race to the equation. Just the other day the all of the "Bring It On" movies were on tv and I couldn't help but think how centered those movies were around races.

In the first one it is the Gehtto vs. high class. In the third one it is a rich girl movie to a poor neighbor hood. They are SO streotypical. At the "black" school they get down and know how to so called "shake booty" but on the upper side they know how to keep it clean and cut. I find it interesting that a franchise can make so many movies about such a blatantly obvious racial basis. Just a thought.

Friday, February 13, 2009

We're Not Gonna Take It

We're not gonna take it...or are we?  In class we were talking about the objectification of women in advertising.  I'm sure most women have negative or disgusted views on the subject.  However, it makes me curious how those women who choose to be objectified feel.  Of course, it means a paycheck but I can't help but wonder how they rationalize their behavior.  On any given day the average women wouldn't say yes to being objectified in an ad, but somehow we find women subjecting themselves to this degrading behavior.  For the right price, would you?

Friday, February 6, 2009

Don't Waste the Pretty!

So I am about to go see He is just not that into you and I have almost never been more excited ( except for maybe twilight and high school musical 3 [ those pesky double X chromosomes]). In high school this book was my bible. I read it daily and I took its wisdom and applied it to my every day life. Every woman who reads it is struck with a sudden understanding....

That not man ever in her whole life... has really been into her.

This movie I think applies a lot to what we have been talking about in class and I know that the teacher even mention that we could do an extra credit write up on it (which I plan to do after I have actually seen the movie), but as for now I am here to talk about the book. The premise is a man telling you all the reasons the guy you are seeing doesn't actually like you and that unless he is doing literally every thing a man should be then it isn't good enough.

I think that it puts unrealistic expectations for men and women. After reading this book men have a whole new obstacle to overcome. He has to live to a tee what the books says or he will be cast out as a man who isn't into the woman he is dating.

Women on the other hand have to suffer through the pain of being told that they are beautiful and a "superfox" and advised to "not waste the pretty", but still have the complex of the princess waiting for the prince. The author advises that a woman not pursue a man to ensure to find out if they are into them. In doing so women just have to rely on their womenly charms and sex appeal to bag themselves a man.

Overall, I am excited to see how they show this in a movie. The usual chick flick the guy always gets the girl, the girl always get a hot make over and everyone ends up together. In movies like this you get to see a different perspective.

Friday, January 30, 2009

I'll make a man out of you...

So I was interested about the idea of how men are subjected to the same media scrutiny as women are, but in a different slimmer way. While women are often stereotyped men are put into an even narrower columns and while women can be the same things as men it is harder for a man to be all teh things a woman can. In line from my blog from last week I was thinking about male disney characters and how they are portrayed. Mostly I was thinking of Gaston.
He is the epitome of manliness. He literally has a ban of women followers singing about how dreamy and handsome he is. Not only that but he is the envy of everyone in the bar and he has muscle that break belts. He even has the confidence to fight to large scary beast! Also he is shallow and doesn't even care about what is inside Belles mind and he wants the only girl he can't have. It paints a very negative picture of what a manly man truly is. He even goes so low to commit Belles father just so that he can have a chance with her.

I know there isn't a huge male fan base for Beauty and the Beast, but this is just an example of how a man can be stereotype in just the same way as a woman. Rather then Belle being the one that falls prey to being an average girl who needs to be saved Gaston or any other prince.

In my life the boys around me weren't really subject to needing ot be a manly man. My dad is a scientist so I grew up with him as the quiet reserved type. My brother philip an dI spend our childhood fighting over who could use the pink and purple pieces when playing board games and my brother, who got many girls, was never afraid to wear pink. I don't think that early exposure really changes who a man becomes.

Friday, January 23, 2009

Happy Endings are for Stories That Haven't Ended Yet

At the age of 20 I still have a huge spot in my heart for all things Disney. My friends and I have all claimed our favorite Disney princess and why we are just like her. Growing up my dad called me Belle from Beauty and the Beast because of my love to read and my brunette hair. As time went on and my little group formed our fantasy Disney league. We argued over which princess had the better dress or the best song choice or the hottest prince (I never won that one, lets be honest, even after the transformation the Beast isn't quite the looker). Even in our adulthood we brought with us what we learned from the Disney movies of our youth. As I look at Disney movies with new eyes I have a whole new perspective. I am going to look at a few of my favorite Disney princess as some may see them or as they would be if they existed in real life.


Let's face it Jasmine is damn hot. She has the curves of model, the abs of "Hit me Baby One More Time" Britney Spears, eyes the size of a normal persons head and hair with so much volume and length it would give a real girl neck and back problems to support it. Yes, Jasmine in attitude broke out of a normal Disney mold. Yes, she wanted her life and not the one that her father wanted for her. However, I have a feeling the reason all of those princes came to her beck and call wasn't because of her stunning intellect and incredible independence. For someone who wanted independence she was objectified easily by her attire. The character was sexy instead of sweet. She knows how to use her body when she has to seduce Jafar and she know's, and abuses, her beauty. At an early age girls can be found in their Jasmine Halloween costumes, flashing their stomachs and looking for their Aladdin. Jasmine is the mirror of independence. Although she knows how to reflect individuality she also knows how to flaunt her sexuality. Seriously, watch Aladdin again and Jasmine oozes sex appeal.

MEG (Hercules)

I don't quite know what hair products Disney uses with they female characters, but I want some. This dark haired spunky beauty is Disney's attempt to have a feminist character. Meg is a women scorned by love. She sells her soul to Hades in order to be with a man who then leaves her for the next pretty little thing that walks by (that bastard! As they would like you to believe). She isn't a damsel and she isn't in distress. She can handle herself and she doesn't NEED a man (even though she has to answer to one in everything she does). But really in doing this all they do is, and excuse me language, is make her kind of bitchy. Don't get me wrong. Meg is one of my favorite Disney characters and if I had her witty repertoire I would use it just the same. However, what is the moral of this story? Even when you don't believe in love, even when you aren't looking for it, even when you have been screwed over before it will still find you, like a killer in a horror movie. You can run, you can hide, but it knows where you live and it will consume you. Sure optimism is a great thing and a great thing to teach children, but not in the way that if you wait your "wonderboy", as she puts it, will come. Meg sings the theme song for most women just entering a relationship, "(I Won't Say) I'm in Love". The song begins, "If there's a prize for rotten judgment I guess I've already won that. No man is worth the aggravation. That's ancient history been there done that." The song is a constant battle between heart and mind. Love and Pain. It gives women a glimpse of what to expect. If Meg is supposed to be a womans feminist model she gives up pretty easily in the line of love.

ARIEL (The Little Mermaid)

Sure I could say the Little Mermaid is sexist because of her little bikini. I could say it shows a woman being dominated by a male driven society (father, Flounder.... Crab). I could say that is portrays a little girl who is ignorant to the world. I could say that the fact that she is a mermaid, eliminating the part of her that makes her physically a woman in human form, doesn't exist and therefore rids her of her femininity. But here is my main problem with The Little Mermaid. THE PRINCE FALLS IN LOVE WITH HER EVEN THOUGH SHE CAN'T TALK. I mean seriously can anyone even argue how male dominated that is?! This wasn't even made in the olden days either. This movie is as old as I am and although a lot has changed this movie depicts a time where a womans beauty got her everything she needed. I get that she was quirky and cute despite her ability to NOT SPEAK and I also get that not everyone can talk and they are still fully capable of finding love. However, their connection was limited to a day of flirting glances and childish smiles. This movies almost shouts at its viewers that if you are cute enough, if you have the body of a goddess and do cute things like brush your hair with a fork then a prince will fall for you without a personality or a voice.

SLEEPING BEAUTY AND SNOW WHITE (Sleeping Beauty and Snow White...)

I am lumping these two together because they have the same problem. After living independent and having their own lives they are struck down. They are two perfectly capable women that need men to recuse them. When it comes to Snow White she became the matriarch to fill the motherly role for her seven dwarfs. For Sleeping Beauty, she was raised as a independent woman but upon entering her new exquisite lifestyle is reduced to a insignificant character. The reason I saved these for last and I put them together is because these depictions are from a different generation. These filled weren't made within my lifetime or even the lifetime of my parents. But what they taught were that these girls were going to die without their prince's. Without the men in their life to save them they would have rested eternally and ceased to matter. It was the men who came and saved them and put life back into them and made their existents pertinent. Just like Cinderella says (or I think it is her at least). Some day my prince will come. A lot of girls sit around waiting for that day. Like in Shrek 3 when all of the princess realize they are screwed because they were waiting for someone to rescue them. It wasn't until Princess Fiona, the unconventional princess, showed them to get off their pretty little hineys and do something to save themselves.

I realized that each of these descriptions are particularly ranty and I am okay with that. I don't feel this way all the time and I don't watch Disney movies to analyze them. I have things to say about pretty much every movie I have seen let alone every Disney movie I have see, but I got a little tired of figuring out how to space the pictures out... My problem is that women, and myself included, feel like they can wait for a prince instead of doing their part to find one themselves.

They spend too much time at home shopping for their glass slippers instead of going out into the real world and doing the work themselves.

Saturday, January 17, 2009

I am such an oaf

MY first posting and I am an hour and a half late. How lame am I. I totally forgot about it until right now and jumped out of bed (somewhat like an exaggerated cartoon character) to tune in and write my blog posting. I know it isn't any excuse, but it was my brothers 25th birthday today (well yesterday technically now) and I was in charge of his wii tournament/pancake eating contest/ poetry reading party. So many forms of mass media brought together. Between the iPhones used to look up poems to read, the iPod touches used to supply the music and the wii's used for entertainment purposes really I was indulging in a night of a Mass Media buffet. I was shocked by how many people I saw twidling with their iPhones. Aren't those expensive? Isn't the contract like 400 dollars a month? Aren't thy still the coolest little things ever? I would have to say yes they are.

I take writing rather seriously so it is somewhat difficult to think that this won't be my best work and that people will still be reading it. But if a blog isn't for grammar mistakes and confusing syntax then what is. For this class I am really excited for the opportunity to be able to write about what we learn in class and how is applies in our life.

What really stuck with me this week from class was the discussion of stereotypes. Having been raised mormon on the southside of chicago is like being raised not mormon in Happy Valley. Except a little worse with more gun shots and teen pregnancy. I was one mormon in a school of nearly 4,000. When people heard of my religious preference it was always followed by, "how many moms do you have," or "aren't mormons amish?". Not to mention the occasional inquiry about the infamous South Park episode. I was a living stereotype. When I made a mistake it wasn't just a mistake it was everyone pointing out how it went against my religion. While other high school students were considered tame if they kept the teen drinking to weekends I was ridiculed by friends if I let an F bomb out under my breath. I was never one to live to the mormon stereotype, but yet those around me expected me to live it to a tee. I tried my best and I kept my mistakes secret so I could maintain my squeaky clean image. When my friends hear of my transgressions they don't often believe me. They give me a look like it is impossible. Is it impossible for there to be a strait man who dresses impeccably? no it is called a metrosexual. Is it possible for a overweight person to be unable to loose weight despite a healthy life style? sure it is called a thyroid condition. Media leaves its mark through these stereotypes (ie. Big Love, House, Gossip Girl, so on and so forth). Before we limit others to a two-dimentional description we learned off of South Park we can learn more about a person and their culture by finding out who they actually are instead of who we assume they are.

I am guilty of stereotyping. I may not broadcast it on this blog for my classmates to read, but I Assume things all the time. And you know what they same about assuming. It makes an ass our of you and me.

I will never post late again, but as a birthday present to my brother it would be cool if the tardiness could be excused. If not I understand. I look forward to this class and writing my feelings about media. I love TV, movies and newspapers (Crosswords specifically) so I feel like I have a lot of exposure. Not to mention I spend almost every free moment I have on my computer surfing the web. By Surfing the web I mean pushing refresh on my facebook page every 5 minutes....3 minutes... 30 seconds. Again with stereotypes I may seem like your typical girl. I like chick flicks, I watch gossip girl, and I check PerezHilton religiously. However I don't usually wear make up, I hate cuddling and I love watching movies where things explode.

You'll learn much more about me throughout the semester and where my feelings lie on many issues